JJ, Thank you for a truly good read. Both of my marriages ended for other reasons before I ever seriously contemplated transition. I was never a cross dresser. I compartmentalized my identity and packed it away in a locked vault. There’s no way for me to know if I’d have ever had the courage otherwise.
It is (in part) because my current (cis male) partner is so completely supportive that I finally found the words, and the strength, to transition. We got engaged this past December. He asked Martha to marry him, not the hollow version of me he’d known for many years prior.
My heart goes out to all of my trans siblings who struggle between loving themselves and loving their partners and families.
Survival is sometimes “selfish” -but I’ve come to know we can’t truly and fully love anyone else when we don’t love ourselves First.
-MM💜✨🏳️‍⚧️