It’s not ALL kids and families they’re trying to “protect.” The ideal of a white cishet child is being “protected,” and the Entire rest of us are being shown the door to hell. But there is strength in numbers. In some ways I “othered” myself by coming out as trans. At least with my children and my family of origin, dwindling as it is. I highlighted yet another way we are not “the same” in this world. …

It’s A Mother Of A Day. Today marked five of these Hallmark holidays without my mother, Toots. I did have her younger sister, my Aunt, over for dinner Saturday night and wished her a Happy Mother’s Day. In reality, I was simply cooking the free ham she got from the supermarket at Easter so she wouldn’t…

“But her emails!!!” We Shouldn’t be Surprised at Fascism Unfolding I wrote my “feel good” essay. And it did feel good. It’s about giving and loving. But I decided I still needed to publish this. I find myself wondering how many republican lawmakers actually believe their own bullshit, and how many are cynically playing a game for money and votes…

Garden Tomatoes, Crocheted Scarves, and The Giving Tree I had a long catch-up visit with a Dear One yesterday, replete with lovely handmade gifts! This dear one makes the loveliest, softest, hand-crocheted scarves, and shares them generously. She’d sent us some for Christmas, along with delicious home-baked cookies. But she…

Something More Than a “Man,” Too Haven’t thought of The Bee Gees in ages. Then this song popped into my head. I’ve learned to embed music so here you go. If it sounds haughty to elevate my human status as “more than” anything, I get it. But I am learning to reassemble my internal dialog…

I’ve spent my life guarding her fiercely. Protecting her from a world we were certain would kill her if they got a glimpse of her. I don’t generally think of myself as more than one Soul. I have just the one. But in much the same way children learn…

I know instability from a mile away. I also know how to deal with it quickly. We had the oddest interaction with a would-be filmmaker the other night. This “former addict” who claims to be six years clean, was, I am told, decidedly not clean when he approached a certain publicist just three years ago and told us on THIS call he’d just “had a Xanax”…

Some shit just isn’t funny anymore. For some of us, It never really was. I highly recommend Jerrod Carmichael’s new HBO Special, Rothaniel. It’s powerful. Much of what I have learned about racism, sexism, transphobia, homophobia, really all the “isms” — has come from first person accounts that required a lot of vulnerability on the part of the storyteller. I found these accounts in…

But they’re speaking up, and when they do, we need to hear them A Facebook friend recommended watching First Day on Hulu. It’s an Australian series with just 8 episodes, about a young trans girl navigating a new school. The main character is played by young trans actress Evie MacDonald, the first transgender actor to star in an Australian tv show. …